Soul mate is a magical term. We’ve added a “meant to be” element to it that’s missing from other relationship terms, like “partner.” Movies, media, magazines and advertising have convinced us that Cupid is real, and is working very hard on our behalf. Because of this, we trust something greater than ourselves, which causes us to close our eyes and cross our fingers.
Like anything in life, wishful thinking doesn’t usually manifest results. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t believe in magic, because the world is full of magic if you look. But the magic comes when you find your soul mate, not so much when you’re searching for one. There may be moments. You may have wonderful experiences, but the magic doesn’t come in droves.
So if you don’t depend on the powers that be to drop the love of your life into your lap, how do you take action to find your soul mate?
You don’t find; you attract. Everyone has an attraction level. The action comes in raising yours. Here are a few tips on how to raise your attraction level so you begin on a path to attracting your soul mate.
1. Become aware of your attractiveness.
Imagine that you’re a magnet. Forget soul mate for now — do you attract or repel people in general? Do people gravitate toward you or keep their distance? Are you able to maintain healthy relationships with friends? Do you know many but not really know anyone?
When I say that everyone has an attraction level, I’m not referring to aesthetics. I’m talking about energy, attitude, emotional intelligence, general vibe and character. So the first tip is to be aware of your attraction level. How do people respond to you? Do you notice a pattern? Is it different depending on gender? Tip one is to just be aware and take an honest look at your attraction level. If you believe your level is low, it doesn’t mean you’re defective. It means you have low awareness, or you haven’t done much work on yourself. Read more…